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A CONVERSATION WITH YOUR FUTURE SELF

Someday, you might disagree with yourself.

About driving. Money. Your health. Living alone. Accepting help.And someone you love may have to make a difficult decision.
What if you could tell them today what you'd want them to do tomorrow?
What if you could tell them today what you'd want them to do tomorrow?
I Said You Couldā„¢ helps you put your wishes into words now, while they're still yours to make, so the people you trust have guidance when it matters most. Your wishes. Your voice. Your permission.
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Why This Exists

Knowing what someone wants doesnā€™t always make acting on it easy. You might know your mom shouldnā€™t be driving anymore. You might know your partner needs more help than you can give. But knowing and feeling allowed are very different things. Especially when the person you love is now saying, ā€œAbsolutely not.ā€ I Said You Couldā„¢ gives you a way to have that conversation earlier. To explain what matters to you, what changes youā€™d want someone to notice, and when youā€™d want them to step in. So they have your words to return to, instead of having to guess.

What You Can Give Permission For

The things we put off talking about. And the things we assume someone already knows.
We cover all type of services but typically:
  • DRIVING
  • LIVING ALONE
  • ACCEPTING CARE
  • MONEY
  • LIVING YOUR OWN LIFE
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How It Works

Step 1: Choose A Conversation
Start with something that matters to you. A decision you worry about. A responsibility you donā€™t want someone carrying alone.
Step 2: Put It In Your Words
Say what youā€™d want to happen and why. Be specific. Sound like yourself. This doesnā€™t need to be a perfect speech.
Step 3: Save It & Talk About It
Keep your message somewhere you can return to. Let the person itā€™s meant for know what youā€™ve said. Revisit it together as life changes.

Not Sure Where to Start?

Finish one of these sentences...
ā€œIF YOU NOTICEā€¦ā€
What would tell someone itā€™s time to have a conversation or offer help?
ā€œWHAT MATTERS MOST TO ME ISā€¦ā€
What would you want them to understand before making a difficult decision?
ā€œYOU HAVE MY PERMISSION TOā€¦ā€
What do you want someone you love to feel allowed to do, without carrying the guilt?

Your Words Can Help

Less Guessing
Give someone a clearer sense of what you want and why. Especially when there isnā€™t an easy answer.
Room to Be Honest
You can love your independence and acknowledge that you might need help someday. Both can be true.
Something to Return To
A difficult conversation can be hard to remember. A saved message gives you somewhere to begin again.

MY MOM HAS MS. THIS STARTED WITH HER.

Iā€™ve thought a lot about what happens when someone you love needs help but doesnā€™t want to accept it. And what it feels like to be the person who has to push. Then I thought about Mira. About the decisions my daughter might someday face. I donā€™t want her wondering whether helping me means betraying me. I want her to hear it from me: you have my permission. Thatā€™s where I Said You Couldā„¢ began. Watch the video to hear why Iā€™m building it.
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A Note From Rikke

Iā€™m Rikke. A daughter, a mother, and someone who knows I may eventually be very annoying about accepting help.
So Iā€™m having the conversation now.
I built I Said You Couldā„¢ because I want the people I love to know what I mean while I can explain it clearly. I want them to have more than ā€œI think this is what she would have wanted.ā€
This is an early beta. Iā€™d love you to try it, save a message, and tell me where you get stuck or what feels missing.
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FAQ

Is This A Legal Document?

No. I Said You Couldā„¢ is a place to express personal wishes and give guidance to people you trust. It does not replace a will, advance directive, power of attorney, or other legal document. It does not give someone legal authority to act on your behalf. This is intentional.

Do I Have to Be Older or ill to Use It?

No. You can start whenever thereā€™s something you want another person to understand. You donā€™t have to wait for a crisis to have a useful conversation. I started at 55 years old.

What If I Change My Mind?

You can change your mind, however, whenever. When your wishes change, revisit your message and make sure the people involved understand what you want now.

Do I Have to Sign Up Somewhere First?

Nope. Go straight to the beta and follow the prompts to get started. Thereā€™s no separate waiting list for this invitation. If you wish to continue to keep it live and in action for updated feedback, signing up is best.

Is This Beta Free?

Yes. You can try the current beta for free. Itā€™s an early version, and your feedback will help shape what comes next. The agreement will always be free and other parts will eventually be added at a nominal fee.

What Feedback Would Help?

Try creating and saving one message. Tell me what felt clear, what felt awkward, and whether anything stopped you from finishing. You donā€™t need to share the personal contents of your message.
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Contact us with any questions, concerns or help.

Tell Me What You Think?

Have a question? Got stuck? Thought of something that would make this more useful?
I Said You Couldā„¢ is still taking shape, and Iā€™d love to hear from you. Tell me what worked, what didnā€™t, or what you wish it could do. No need to share your private messages. Just your experience.
Cheers, Rikke